Should I stop treatment for Ovarian Cancer and focus on quality of life

Making the Treatment vs. Quality of Life Decision for Ovarian Cancer

This is one of the most important and deeply personal decisions you'll face. I want to help you think through this clearly, while being honest: this decision belongs with your oncology team and you—not with me. But I can help you understand the framework doctors use and what questions matter most.

What the Medical Evidence Shows

According to palliative care expert James Tulsky (referenced in the CancerPatientLab webinars), there's a critical myth to shatter: palliative care and quality-of-life focus are NOT the same as stopping treatment. In fact, research published in the New England Journal of Medicine showed that patients with metastatic cancer who received early palliative care alongside their cancer treatment:

• Had better quality of life
• Actually lived longer (about 3 months longer on average)
• Had better symptom control

This is important: You don't have to choose between fighting cancer and living well. These can happen together.

How Doctors Think About This Decision

According to Tulsky's framework, the real question isn't "Should I stop treatment?" but rather: "Do the benefits of this specific treatment outweigh the burdens for ME, given what matters most to my life?"

This depends on three things:

1. What are the actual benefits?

• What is this treatment likely to accomplish? (shrink tumors, slow growth, extend life?)
• Over what timeframe?
• What's the realistic chance it will work for YOUR specific cancer?

2. What are the actual burdens?

• Side effects and their severity
• Time spent in treatment vs. time living your life
• Impact on daily functioning
• Emotional and financial costs

3. What matters most to YOU?

• Some patients say: "Do everything possible to extend my life, even if it's difficult"
• Others say: "I want quality time with family, even if it means less time overall"
• Many say: "I want to try treatment, but stop if it's not working or becomes unbearable"

There is no "right" answer—only what's right for you.

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Questions to Ask Your Oncology Team

Before making any decision, have these specific conversations:

About your cancer:

1. "What stage is my ovarian cancer, and what does that tell us about how it might respond to treatment?"
2. "If I continue treatment, what are the realistic chances it will shrink my cancer or slow its growth?"
3. "How will we know if treatment is working? What are we looking for?"

About treatment options: 4. "Are there different treatment approaches we could try? What are the pros and cons of each?" 5. "If I stop this treatment, what other options exist later if I change my mind?"

About quality of life: 6. "What side effects should I expect, and how long do they typically last?" 7. "How much time will treatment take each week/month, and how will it affect my daily life?" 8. "Can we adjust the treatment plan to make it more tolerable while still being effective?"

About palliative care: 9. "Would it help to have a palliative care team involved alongside my oncology care? They can help with symptom management and quality of life." 10. "If treatment stops working, what support would be available to help me live as well as possible?"

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What the Evidence Actually Says About Stopping Treatment

According to Tulsky and other palliative care specialists, the timing and approach matter enormously:

• Early conversations are better than late ones. Discussing your values, goals, and what matters most should happen now—not in a crisis.

• "Stopping treatment" isn't binary. You might:

  • Continue current treatment but add palliative care
  • Switch to a gentler treatment approach
  • Take a break and reassess
  • Stop cancer-directed therapy but continue symptom management

• Your preferences should drive the decision. If your doctor recommends continuing treatment but you're suffering and it's not working, that's important information. If you want to try everything and your doctor is being too conservative, that's also important.

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The Bottom Line

This is NOT a decision you should make alone, and it's NOT a decision to rush.

According to the American Society of Clinical Oncology (referenced in palliative care guidelines), palliative care should be offered to all cancer patients early in their diagnosis—not as a replacement for treatment, but as a partner to it.

What I'd recommend:

1. Request a meeting with your oncology team specifically to discuss your goals and concerns
2. Ask about palliative care services at your cancer center—this is standard care now
3. Be honest about how you're doing—physically, emotionally, and spiritually
4. Bring someone you trust to help you listen and remember what's discussed
5. Take time to think before making major decisions (unless there's an urgent medical reason)

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Resources for Deeper Thinking

The CancerPatientLab webinars on "Palliative Care for Advanced Cancer" and "Palliative and Psychosocial Services" provide excellent frameworks for these conversations. Your cancer center should also have social workers, psychologists, and palliative care specialists who can help you think through what matters most.

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This information is for educational purposes only. Always consult your healthcare team for personalized medical advice and decisions.

The decision about your treatment is deeply personal and medical—it requires your oncologist's knowledge of your specific cancer, your values, and your honest assessment of how treatment is affecting your life. You deserve support in making this decision, and that support should come from your care team.